This is the fun bit. Though, to be honest, it would be a lot more fun if they gave you pictures and CVs. As it is, you get a basic breakdown of physical characteristics; height, weight, eye colour, hair colour, build, skin tone etc. You also get information on career and/or qualifications and a small outline of their 'hobbies'. In short, its a bit like internet dating without the pictures or the need to meet anyone for an uncomfortable conversation over a bowl of pasta.
The clinic will usually ask you to fill in a sheet outlining your basic 'wants' from a donor. These are obviously entirely up to you but they may well fit with what you or your partner look like. The sheet is then passed on the person in charge of their donor database and they go ahead and try to match you with a donor. Most likely they will send you one potential donor at a time for your consideration and ask you to feedback.
The first donor I got sent sounded like Dan Arnold out of the show 'Roseanne'; blonde, blue eyes, 6ft 3, heavy build and a mechanic. I'm sure he is a wonderful man (he must be - to be a donor is no easy task and they do not get financially rewarded for this amazing gift) but I had visions of having to push out a 14lb baby from my, relatively, small frame and panicked. Sorry Dan but I sent you back...
After this we got sent two potential donors. Both were University educated and very similar in build, colourings and interests. The only thing between them, really, was height. To give any potential baby boy every chance in life I went for the tallest guy - well, at least he is a good deal taller than average (which is only 5ft 9 in this country apparently!!! What's that about!?).
And that, basically, is that. Its hard to get too excited about the donor because, of course, you have absolutely no idea what they look like and you can only hope beyond all things that they were blessed with good looks and that they don't resemble a Klingon...
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